Healing is a long, slow ceremony of coming home.
We are not meant to do it alone.
My practice is a non-judgemental client-led space for brave souls to shine light into the parts of themselves that are calling out for attention.
Inner criticism. Addiction. Codependency. Self doubt. Anxiety. Challenging relationships. Difficult emotions. Fear. Depression. Shame. Confusion.
These unresolved places within us hold an emotional charge that can make living life hard. It has been my experience — and that of my clients — that relief and freedom are possible.
It is my great honor to walk beside others as they come to trust their inner knowing, find their voice and live their lives with courage and compassion.
Welcome,
I'm Bahia
I help individuals and couples break generational patterns, repair relationships, and cultivate true connection—without losing themselves in the process.
If you're ready...
to shift out of painful patterns
deepen self-trust
create relationships rooted in clarity, compassion and conscious choice
you're in the right place.
get to know me more
qualifications
Certified IFS Practitioner
Bahia Miller is a Certified by the IFS Institute as a Level 2 Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner. In addition to her training she serves as a Program Assistant in IFS trainings to support other professionals in learning and embodying the model.
Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) & Conscious Partnership Coaching
Trained in Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO), an advanced application of Internal Family Systems (IFS) for couples, and certified in Conscious Partnership Coaching, Bahia has grounded her relationship coaching practice in these frameworks since 2020. Her work integrates deep emotional healing with practical tools for communication, boundaries, and connection.
Embodiment & Mentorship
Bahia began the work of healing her own relational trauma over a decade ago when she was confronted by her inability (and sincere desire) to form a lasting partnership.
Her passion is to hold safe and non-judgmental space for brave humans as they do the inner work of creating secure attachment within themselves and then a life (filled with healthy relationships) that they love.
Bahia has been walking this path with women and men since 2015. She brings her compassion, grounded energy, and trust in each person's unique path to the process.
I would also like to thank all of my teachers and mentors over the years (Rebecca Benenati, Ama Castro, Jackie Shea & my IFS Community). I am also grateful for the shadow teachers who helped me meet my pain and eventually… my power.
Values & Philosophy
WHOLENESS OVER FIXING
I believe you're not broken—you’re beautifully complex. IFS honors every part of you as having wisdom and purpose, even the ones that seem like problems.
COMPASSION AS THE CATALYST
True healing happens in a space of deep self-compassion. Whether in partnership or solo work, I guide from a place of tenderness, curiosity, and care.
RELATIONSHIPS AS A SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
I see intimate relationships as a path of growth. The challenges we face with others are powerful invitations to meet ourselves more fully.
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
—Rumi
MY STORY
My dark night of the soul came early.
At 25 years old I found myself googling various mental health disorders trying to figure out what the hell was wrong with me. In a desperate attempt to get to the bottom of my depression, codependency and confusion I got sober… hoping for some clarity.
I had been numbing out my pain in various ways for a long time...
As a child I was a highly sensitive soul and often felt misunderstood. As I got older, I had no idea how to process my big emotional life – experiences of heartbreak and rejection got pushed down further. I created protective strategies to keep myself safe in the world and in relationships. Perfectionism. People-pleasing. Acting like I didn't give a f*ck (about anyone or myself). Inner-criticism. Shame. Unworthiness. But all my tactics finally run their course.
Deep down I wanted to have a vibrant beautiful life. I knew – or should I say, I hoped – I had gifts to offer this world. I had done the best I could… but the things I was doing were no longer serving me… They were hurting me. And I was willing to do the work.
Eventually I found Internal Family Systems…
For me IFS was the missing piece that helped me SLOW DOWN. It gave me a way to attune to these parts of me in the ways I always yearned for. Piece by piece I took down the walls I had created. I greeted my armor… thanked it and let myself fall apart. I discovered that each time I did this, I felt lighter. It took some time to trust this process, but thank god I did, because it gave me back myself.
My IFS practice continues to provide a framework to care for all of my parts on a daily basis and live in greater self-trust, self-expression, self-compassion and self-leadership through all life's inevitable ups and downs.
My love story…
It wasn't long before my future husband entered the scene. Cedar and I met at our beloved Los Angeles yoga studio. He marched right up to me after a class and asked me out (Go Cedar!) And it was ON!! #FireEmoji
Ahhh the ease of new love… Great chemistry. Brave conversations. Pumping the breaks so we didn't move too fast…we felt very woke as we mindfully navigated our dating process. We moved in together. And then… slowly but surely… our “stuff” started to creep in. We were being invited into a whole new level of what intimacy in partnership is really about.
Trials in intimate partnership...
My big feelings were met with what felt like rejection. The more I wanted him to accept me as I was, the more he moved away. Feeling rejected - I had no interest in fulfilling his desires for connection. We were both unfulfilled. We kept finding ourselves in cycles like this. This was not what we thought we signed up for. So after months (or was it years?) of breakdowns and pain… we interrupted the cycle.
We got support. We hired coaches & therapists who were doing (and more importantly... living) this work. They helped us understand what was happening, why it was happening, and what we needed to learn/do to move through it. We learned how to connect with our vulnerability. How to speak for our parts so the other could hear. The pieces started falling in place.
The grace to be a messy human.
We still have our “stuff.” But now – we recover quicker. We practice taking responsibility for our part of a breakdown. WE REPAIR. We have deeper intimacy both emotionally & physically!! It’s a different kind of love than it was at the beginning. It continues to go deeper as we learn how to honor ourselves and each other in this wild ride of partnership.
Today I know that WHAT TRIGGERS ME in life (and in my marriage & parenting) IS MY TEACHER. And I have self-compassion and devotion to doing this work.
It is my deepest honor to walk with individuals and couples as they slow down to heal from the inside out.
